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Today’s bite, oh, such a heavy topic. But a topic that fascinates me. And a universal one, I’m sure.

Here’s something I wish I read 15 years ago. It’s from a book a good friend recommended called “My Mother, My Self” by Nancy Friday. I’m only on page 17 but there are two pieces I’d like to share:

“Believe that I love you, no matter what I say or do to you,” is the message behind the madonna. “No one will ever love you as I do. Mother loves you best in all the world and I will always be there for you.” Many mothers offer this kind of impossible love because they are lonely and want to bind their daughters to them forever. All mothers imply it because they are in a trap too: to suggest less is to be “a bad mother.”” (Page 5)

and

“I have heard daughters say that they do not love their mothers. I have never heard a mother say she does not love her daughter… the myth that mothers always love their children is so controlling…” (Page 10)

I’m also intrigued by the family-food connection, you know, and I’ve found Cindy’s post on Fix me a snack blog, We Are What We Feed Our Children? to be thought-provoking. I could not help but think about the deeper meaning of the act of feeding my children and what it means about our relationship, our needs and wants, and how they are met, or not. I know I put a lot more than just food in each and every snack, dinner, or lunch box. There is so much more than a sandwich, a  fruit, or a treat, (or a surprise love note) that goes into that bag, or onto their plates. Way beyond just food itself. Way beyond.

So, when you’re feeding your family, what are you giving them?

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And I’ve been thinking about this song too (the lyrics below):

 

Daughters

Lyrics by John Mayer

I know a girl
She puts the color inside of my world
But she’s just like a maze
Where all of the walls are continually changed
And I’ve done all I can
To stand on her steps with my heart in my hands
Now I’m starting to see
Maybe it’s got nothing to do with me

Fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers, be good to your daughters too

Oh, you see that skin?
It’s the same she’s been standing in
Since the day she saw him walking away
Now I’m left
Cleaning up the mess he made

So fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers, be good to your daughters too

Boys, you can break
You’ll find out how much they can take
Boys will be strong
And boys soldier on
But boys would be gone without the warmth from
A woman’s good, good heart

On behalf of every man
Looking out for every girl
You are the guide and the weight of her world
So fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers, be good to your daughters too

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Give your kids a hug (no matter how old they are).

xo,

Me

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