1 family. friendly food. » Happy: Writing with a friend

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I have a friend. Let’s call her R. I’ve known her for about 8 years. But only about a year ago we became good friends. Sometimes, it takes the right moment for the spark that brings two people together to happen. Do you know what I mean? There’s someone next to you but you don’t really see him or her. You go on with your life not knowing that this person will be important to you one day. Then, this day arrives… and you become friends.

It started with a walk.

We met at friends house, nothing special happened. Then and I wanted to go for a walk with my baby in her stroller to try and put her to sleep. R was the only one who was interested to join me. As soon as we walked out the door, we had the most amazing conversation, very open, intimate, and honest about things that matter. Since then we put more efforts to stay in touch, to meet, to call, and recently… we started getting together once a week to write. She writes her second book, I started to work on mine.

We meet at a coffee shop

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There she comes…

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Pretty necklace

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We sit across from one another, each one working on her laptop

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With a cup of coffee or tea.

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When it’s her turn, she chooses the coffee shop by atmosphere – she likes music in the background and cozy places, preferably with books around – while my first criterion is the quality of the coffee. I got to have good coffee! So we’re still looking for the best place that will work for both of us.

One day, I brought my camera… and when I needed a break from writing… I played a little…

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She made me re-focus and go back to work.

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But not before I begged her to take some photos of me because as the family photographer I don’t have too many good ones. I actually have a hard time being brave and looking at the camera in the eye. But I try, I try…

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C’mon smile a little…

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I wrote some more, then I got stuck, so I played some more. I felt good that day!

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Lovely necklace

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What is she typing there all the time?

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I had to take a peek

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A-ha! (She let me read some of it.)

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Can you tell that I was stuck?

But I did figure out some key things since that day and made progress. I don’t bring the camera with me anymore on these days. But when we met at a coffee shop next to a book store, guess where did I go?

I love meeting R for writing. She provides support and insights. She says out loud words I’m afraid to write.

She provides perspective and she challenges me to open up and to write what I want to say.

I’m looking forward to many more writing Wednesdays 2010!


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  1. Revital

    December 20th, 2009 at 22:32

    Loved it! You write beautifuly! I love writing with you, and can`t wait for our next time. Thanks to you I am writing, you inspire me, so I write!

    love you, R

  2. yael

    December 20th, 2009 at 23:39

    You and R are very lucky people. A good friend is one of the most important things a girl can have. Hopefully someday I will also find that same sort of friendship in someone.

  3. Joan Nova

    December 21st, 2009 at 06:46

    What a nice post! What a great idea to have a writing buddy…it beats bouncing ideas off yourself!
    .-= Joan Nova´s last blog ..FoodBuzz 24, 24, 24: The Annual Holiday Boat Parade Party =-.

  4. Tamar

    December 21st, 2009 at 09:04

    Writing more is an excellent plan for 2010! You’re very photogenic and your picture taking is improving.
    I’ll give you a call this week. Matt and I are going to Cambria for the weekend. Talk soon

    t

  5. Kelly

    December 21st, 2009 at 20:45

    I love that you have a writing friend. It’s interesting how relationships like that evolve in adulthood.

  6. Nurit - 1 family. friendly. food.

    December 22nd, 2009 at 14:08

    Yael,
    I’ve been thinking about your comment in the past few days. There’s so much I want to tell you. Maybe one day I’ll write it in a post. But for now, I just wanted to tell you that I put a lot of effort into relationships with people. It’s not always easy. It’s mostly not easy. But I put myself out there and try to open up and welcome people into my life and my home. But not everyone wants that. There are rejections, pain, and disappointment, but I keep trying.
    If I’m lucky then maybe once a year I make a new friend but I also lose friends.
    Keep trying, keep going, it’s not about me, people have their own issues, I keep reminding myself. I know I have to open my arms to many people (some of them will reject me), so when that special person arrives my arms will open and ready to accept him/her.
    I send you hugs, and wish that you will find someone good for your life this year.