
This post has been sitting on my desk, actually on my computer screen, open for the past week. If it were on paper, I would have probably torn it to little pieces by now. I can’t even remember, what was the point I wanted to make in this post?
In order to finish it, I need a good amount of chocolate. After treating myself to one square I found myself going back to the kitchen, a second trip, to bring the whole bar close to me. Creamy milk chocolate with almonds that my sister brought me when she came to visit us a few days ago. “My sister”, two words I haven’t used much in my life. I like that. But more about this some other time. Now, I’ve got another story for you.
The names, times, and places don’t matter. If you look closely, you will probably find someone near you with a similar experience. It, or another version of it, can happen to anyone, anywhere, anytime.*
You see, there’s this woman who owns and runs a little specialty food store where I have been shopping for the past 8 years. I like to go there every now and then and look for new ingredients. She brings all kinds of foreign food products from around the world, most of it you will not find at the usual grocery chain store. Through the years we have developed good relationships and got to know each other a little. We chitchat and sometimes share little personal anecdotes. This lady saw my children grow, she held them in her arms when they were babies, she talks with them too and sometimes gives them a little treat, or gently pinches a chubby cheek. We talk about all kinds of things, this and that, husbands, children, life in general, the news… I like that.
– OK, enough with the chocolate now –

Last week I went to the store after about two months that I haven’t been there. Like always, she asked me how I was and I answered that I had a bit of a crazy summer, yada yada yada… you know the story… And then she replied: “Believe me, I have a harder time”. I was surprised by this response, but I challenged her with a smile, “No, I had a harder time”, and she went “No, believe me, I do”, and I said “No, I do…” and then added, “OK, let’s hear your story”, and was still laughing about this childish exchange of arguments.
She then shared with me a story about her family. Turns out she is solely supporting three people emotionally, physically, and financially: an ungrateful 80 years old mother who needs the kind of care as if she was a 3 year old, a husband who suffers from depression, and a 20+ college girl who’s whole life is ahead of her. In addition to all that, she is running and managing the store all by herself and is barely making a living to support all four of them. She had tears in her eyes and I felt that I wanted to give her a big hug. I went behind the counter and we hugged.
It’s funny, or maybe “ironic” is a better word for it, how we see people around us but we don’t really see them, don’t you think? We’re mainly using our eyes, but not our hearts to see one another. We can “know” someone for years at work, in school, at the gym, it can even be a family member, or someone we consider a friend, but in some cases, we probably hardly know much about them.
Some people prefer the short and quick exchange of words with a cashier at the average grocery chain store because then they can still keep their anonymity and food safety and this is how they like it. Fine. As for me, I know that those cashiers might not be there the next time I shop so I don’t see the point in getting too deep into conversation with them. I have issues with separations so I prefer to invest in developing long-term relationships. This just doesn’t happen at Safeway, QFC, Ralphs, Vons, Whole Foods, or Albertsons.
There’s something special, even a bit magical, when shopping at little mom and pop stores, even at the fancier boutique stores. I see shopping at a small, local, and individually-owned business as being part of and supporting my local community. I want to be a part of that. I want to know the people. It’s a no brainer, just like the Chocolate-vanilla tea biscuits bars I am about to share with you.

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Chocolate-vanilla tea biscuits bars
I felt like having a simple and back to childhood sort of dessert for the weekend. I made these bars/layered ”cake” using tea biscuits from that little food store. If you can’t find them where you shop try to make a graham cracker crust or use lady fingers (the ones that are being use for Tiramisu).
For a 9 x 13 inch (22 x 32 cm) pan
20-25 tea biscuits
1 small box (about 3 oz, 90 gram) INSTANT vanilla pudding
2 cups cold milk
1 cup heavy cream
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 tablespoon sugar
1/2 teaspoon lemon zest, optional
8 oz. chocolate (whatever you like, milk/semi/bittersweet, or a mix of all)
3-4 tablespoons heavy cream, optional
Place tea biscuits on the bottom of the pan in a single layer (cut any whole biscuit with a serrated knife if you need to fit into the last row).
In a bowl, prepare the pudding according to the instructions on the package. Set aside.
In a mixer bowl with a whisk attachment, whip the heavy cream with sugar, vanilla, and lemon zest using medium-high speed until the whisk leaves marks in the cream and holds pretty stiff peaks. (If you need to learn how to whip cream, see the photos below and also in this link.)
Gently fold the whipped cream into the pudding. Pour the mixture over the biscuits layer and chill until it sets.
Melt the chocolate:
1) Microwave method; (you have to use cream). Put the chocolate and cream in a bowl and microwave at 20 seconds intervals, mixing in between, until chocolate is completely melted. Cool a bit and pour over the pudding layer.
2) Bain-Marie method; (You don’t have to use cream. See photo below). Put the chocolate in a bowl over a pot with gently simmering water. The water should not touch the bottom of the bowl. Mix from time to time until the chocolate is completely melted. Cool a bit and pour over the pudding layer.
That’s it.




How to Bain-Marie:

* Warning to people who know me: Don’t dare ask me who this person is.
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22 Comments
unconfidentialcook
September 10th, 2009 at 1:23 pm
These look absolutely delicious (and so easy!), but what’s even better is the way you connected with that woman, poor thing. I really feel for her. I hope you go back sooner….
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alice
September 10th, 2009 at 2:24 pm
Looks great Nurit!
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Maytal
September 10th, 2009 at 7:45 pm
Yum! Your pictures look amazing and makes this dessert look super yummy. I make a slightly different version of this cake, I make a layered version. I layer the biscuits, and make 2-3 layers of them with the cream filling. Also, I dip the biscuits in OJ, or for a more tiramisu like dessert I dip them in coffee.
Nurit - 1 family. friendly. food.
September 10th, 2009 at 7:58 pm
unconfidentialcook: that’s part of the charm in the small mom and pop shops.
Maytal: great idea to have several layers. Yum indeed.
Amrita
September 11th, 2009 at 3:38 am
Oh, those bars look luscious! I always plan ahead when I feel like whipping up a chocolate something, since I know any bar I buy will end up in my tummy even before it reaches the kitchen!
The Little Teochew
September 11th, 2009 at 5:57 am
You come up with the simplest but most beautiful recipes. Like this one, and the tomato soup.
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kat
September 11th, 2009 at 6:03 am
OH – looks yummy! This reminds me of something my friends concocted when we studied abroad – chocolate biscuits quickly dunked in wine & laid flat; next layer – strawberry yogurt. More chocolate wine biscuits, more yogurt. It was pretty good!
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Natasha - 5 Star Foodie
September 11th, 2009 at 8:48 am
The biscuit bars look yummy, love the chocolate on top!
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Kristen
September 11th, 2009 at 9:25 am
What a neat story. A few days ago we were driving through a drive-thru that I frequent regularly to hit my fountain drink addiction. My husband usually isn’t with me when we do this, but he was on this day. They guy opened the window to take my change and he looked up and said “Oh, hey! How are you doing?” We then preceded to have a little convo… me asking him about his recent vacation and school, etc. I am THAT person who always gets to know people, whether it be at the pharmacy, Target, whereever. Drives my hubby crazy but I think my kids are learning a lesson from it too. (Well, don’t talk to strangers is really not coming through clearly to them, I’m sure…oops!) I believe that one simple interaction… asking an extra question or taking a little interest in someone can make their day. I bet you made her day by listening and caring!
These bars would make my day, that’s for sure!!
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Donna
September 11th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
These look so very delicious. And so easy to make. Thanks for sharing this one.. I must try it.
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vered - blogger for hire
September 11th, 2009 at 6:18 pm
Your writing is so beautiful. You’re right – we don’t really see the people around us.
Lisa
September 11th, 2009 at 11:25 pm
What a moving and lovely story about your exchange/relationship with the owner of that small specialty store (NOT asking!
). I couldn’t agree more that the small out of the way markets and mom and pop places are THE BEST. I used to frequent many when I lived in NYC, and it was such a joy to spend the day doing so..developing a nice camaraderie with the proprietor(s).
Finally, what a unique idea for a layered bar cookie. Never thought of using tea biscuits! Plus, milk chocolate with vanilla cream? YUM! They look decadent and delicious, and are now bookmarked
Matt (Health Blog Helper)
September 12th, 2009 at 6:27 am
That is a really touching story about the cashier! I’m of the shy type, so these sort of exchanges are rare for me. My wife and I were just talking the other day about how bringing our dog out with us makes people open up about so many (non-dog) things!
Oh yeah, and the tea biscuits look wonderful

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Dana
September 12th, 2009 at 8:22 pm
Great post. What store is it? I’d love to support her.
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Nurit - 1 family. friendly. food.
September 12th, 2009 at 8:27 pm
Dana: Oh, I can’t tell. She wouldn’t want me to tell who she is so I have to keep it anonymous.
But the story is beyond that specific woman. There are many people around us who struggle to make a living or having a hard time without us knowing or being aware of it. We need to support each other more, care and be more interested in people and support our local small businesses in general.
Thanks for your intention and caring.
Nurit - 1 family. friendly. food.
September 12th, 2009 at 8:36 pm
Lisa, I think so too. The little stores are those who make different places feel special. If it was all just chain stores everywhere we go it would be totally … no point in going anywhere.
matt: yes, dogs, and kids too
Jane
September 17th, 2009 at 10:28 am
When I was growing up, my parents were the type that always struck up conversations with total strangers, whether they were clerks, salespeople, or other customers standing in line somewhere. It was fairly embarrassing to me as a teenager, but now that I’m grown I find I do the same thing (!), and as an adult I see the reason for it: we’re all riders on the same train, as Springsteen puts it. I’ll bet I’ve embarrassed my own kids a time or two but I hope I’m passing along to them the importance of reaching out to others, if only for a moment or a smile.
BTW, great looking dessert!
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Zenab
September 17th, 2009 at 7:46 pm
hey that so easy i want to try
its look so delicious, and choclate is my fav want to try out.
Thanks
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EG
September 18th, 2009 at 5:47 am
Trying to think of an excuse to make these (I can’t just bake/ make sweets for the heck of it – I’ll eat them all). YUM.
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Christina
September 18th, 2009 at 6:53 am
What a sweet story and a gorgeous desert.
Diana
September 22nd, 2009 at 11:06 am
Oh that looks dangerously tasty! I always try to make conversation with people and find out about their lives. When someone asks how I’m doing, I give an honest answer, and if someone replies to my “how are you?” with “fine”, I ask if they’re really doing well. It’s funny how people do a double take and then share what’s actually happening in their life.
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Melanie D
October 1st, 2009 at 10:30 am
They look like they are a lot harder to make than they really are. This is something I am going to try..TY!