Comments on: Flesh and blood

By: Nurit - 1 family. friendly. food.

Nurit - 1 family. friendly. food. — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 16:32:07 +0000

Molly, thank you.

Anne, yes, “The buck stops here.” – exactly!
As for the photo, it was actually taken by a friend at my son’s birthday party. I guess I was in a seriuos mood for a moment. But it does look as if I posed for this post, doesn’t it?
Thank you for your kind words. I do owe it to my children, they are so small and fragile and innocent.

By: Anne

Anne — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 16:25:11 +0000

Nurit, one thing that strikes me about you is what a committed and loving mom you are. As you said, rather than passing the pain on to your kids, you took a painful part of your life and said, "The buck stops here." To me, that shows strength of character and heart. I find it inspiring. By the way, I find the photo on this post to be beautiful and moving. .-= Anne´s last blog ..Olive Oil is the New Garlic =-.

By: Anne

Anne — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 16:21:52 +0000

Nurit, one thing that strikes me about you is what a committed and loving mom you are. Rather than passing the pain on to your kids, you took a painful part of your life and said, The buck stops here. To me, that shows strength of character and heart. I find it inspiring. .-= Anne´s last blog ..Olive Oil is the New Garlic =-.

By: Molly

Molly — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 18:57:51 +0000

Such a beautiful, brave post, Nurit. I can only imagine how very hard it was to write. Thank you for sharing your father's story with us. Molly’s last blog post..Some time away

By: Nurit - 1 family. friendly. food.

Nurit - 1 family. friendly. food. — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 22:19:24 +0000

unconfidentialcook: That’s a long story with chapters . More to come.

frantic foodie: sounds like you managed to turn things around and create a better family for yourslef as an adult. Yoga classes are great, aren’t they?

Lori: I think my half-siblings might be feeling that way towards our mutual father. That thye were an “obligation”.
I think I also feel sad about the lack of good relationships at this point. If we had a stronger connection in the past, I probably would have been there for him more right now.

By: Lori @ RecipeGirl

Lori @ RecipeGirl — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 12:34:35 +0000

Oh dear, what a post. Nurit, my friend… I can relate to a lot of what you’re saying. My parents divorced when I was very young, but my Father never had a commanding influence or presence in my life. It was more of an ‘obligation,’ I always felt. My relationship w/ him as an adult was always very strained and uncomfortable. He passed away a few years ago. I think I’m more sad about never having had a relationship w/ him than I am about him being gone. It sounds like you are experiencing much of the same. Hugs to you!

By: frantic foodie

frantic foodie — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 06:56:53 +0000

you are very brave to write something like this. My father is not a part of my life, well hardly a part of my life. Yesterday the dentist’s secretary said to me. You grew up with home cooked meals, all around the table, family life, didn’t you? I laughed,
No!Not at all. She said I looked very family oriented. I am now because when you get older, you make your own decisions and create your own family. Good for you for telling the truth about the way things are. My yoga teacher one said, be conscious…

By: unconfidentialcook

unconfidentialcook — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 04:48:08 +0000

What a special post--thank you for sharing. I'd like to know more: How did you reconnect with your father and how did he feel when he saw how much he'd missed? More importantly, how did you feel about reconnecting? unconfidentialcook’s last blog post..Muhammara–Lebanese Walnut Dip (*RR)

By: Nurit - 1 family. friendly. food.

Nurit - 1 family. friendly. food. — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 18:35:53 +0000

Leslie: I’m glad it made you laugh as I was trying to be funny. It’s good to know I was successful.
Yes, it’s lots and lots of stuff, at home and on the road. But traveling with kids, although tiring, is a lot of fun. A chance to do things that kids do, only as an adult.

By: Leslie

Leslie — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 18:28:42 +0000

Thanks for your post, Nurit, and your honesty. The idea of family is such a cherished one, and when you have a complicated situation or unusual relationship, it can feel almost sacrilegious to admit that there can be conflicting or ambivalent feelings. But I really believe one has to have the space to be honest about such things in order to make peace with them and try to be a happy and positive person in the present. I think it's great you are using this to work through those feelings as you face your father's illness. On a lighter note, I had to laugh when I saw your comment on stuff. I don't have kids myself. Yet I always seem to have so many things to be dragging around with me. When I look at my friends who are parents, I always think, "My god, if I had kids, I'd have like three times this much stuff to be responsible for when I am out and about. I'd lose my mind!" I don't know how you all do it! Leslie’s last blog post..The Best Dessert I've Ever Made: Chipotle Gingerbread, Caramel Ice Cream & Coffee Sauce